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<\/a>Well, Frau Kolb is an expert on getting a kick out of whatever life throws up in the way of enjoying life. \u00a0I am NOT, however a doctor, what you read here is my personal proposal, an invitation, if you will, to join me in celebrating the good and bad news, as good and bad news will bloom in your life like flowers in the spring time.<\/p>\nRecently, a friend contacted me, asking for advice on how to handle a tricky situation. \u00a0She might have cancer. \u00a0She will be undergoing tests soon. \u00a0May goodness be with her. \u00a0She might find that her cancer is\u2026 well\u2026 she won\u2019t know until she knows and I tell you waiting to find out is hard work. \u00a0Yet\u2026<\/p>\n
She\u2019s lucky because she invested her life in creating a worthy circle, at the center of her circle is her husband. \u00a0He is her best friend and may serve as her \u201cpersonal advocate,\u201d in making decisions relating to cancer treatment. \u00a0She is \u201clucky,\u201d because he picked a steadfast and loving partner. \u00a0He is a caring person. \u00a0She has nurtured relationships with people that really love her. \u00a0 Thus, she will not be facing uncertainty alone.<\/p>\n
For others, they find themselves alone and without means to cope with the huge costs of cancer. \u00a0The people whose lives were out-of-control before cancer must now tap into a source, a reserve, of strength and clarity within themselves. \u00a0That still point, deep within the garden of being, which holds keys to enjoying your life no matter what strikes you, yet does not, kill you\u2014whatever-allows space for life to continue becomes precious when you face, life-threatening cancer treatment. \u00a0In order to be effective the treatment is rough. \u00a0It can kill you. \u00a0So\u2026 you better get ready. \u00a0This is a time to re-new your contract and decide IF living suits you well enough to cling to all lively, joyous, and creative pursuits. \u00a0For those who have lost their path, or never had a clear route toward fulfillment, cancer maybe a chance to save their own lives by using the opportunity to connect with others and thereby forming a \u201cCancer Circle,” of which they are the center. \u00a0It could be that this is the chance to meet new people with whom to relate, commune, and move forward.<\/p>\n
This list of 23 Cancer Blessings<\/strong><\/span> is based on my experience dancing with rather than fighting against cancer. \u00a0I have a genetic mutation that makes my body fertile ground for growing cancer cells. \u00a0There was nothing I could have done to avoid having cancer bloom in my body. \u00a0Yet, there is much I\u2019ve done to enjoy life while undergoing treatment. \u00a0All in all, my life has expanded and become more fulfilling during my dancing time.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve had a grand time a BALL, if you will, in the years after my initial cancer diagnosis. \u00a0I\u2019ve traveled more. \u00a0I made time and space in my life for creativity in a way that keeps me connected and vital. Talkinggrid is one of the out comes of my stretching wingspan into areas that were my dream territories: publishing and professional writing, being every reading girl\u2019s ultimate dream. \u00a0I invite you to join me on this worthy voyage, The Vacation Approach<\/strong><\/span> to Life is the art making peace with yourself and enjoying every second of your life as it is. \u00a0Yes, you are going to get treatment. \u00a0This advice is NOT about praying cancer away. Thank goodness.<\/p>\n 1.) Cancer means you must stop, take a deep, and then deeper breath and LOOK at yourself. \u00a0This is the ultimate opportunity to take stock and LOOK at your life. \u00a0Exhale.<\/p>\n 2.) IF you are fortunate enough to have anyone that cares enough to be your advocate when visiting doctors and getting tests done YOU are blessed.<\/p>\n 3.) Make sure you record your sessions with doctors. \u00a0Take notes, tape recorder, get ready for meetings with lists of questions.<\/p>\n 4.) When you have CANCER your time is officially YOURS! \u00a0Now: you must focus and use your energy like a laser to create GOOD in your world. \u00a0This is a time to pray, IF that works for YOU, to sing, to turn inward, and rejoice because YOU are ALIVE and as long as YOU are among us: ENJOY IT! Enjoy the marvelous spectacle of IT! \u00a0Delight in your cancer because it means you must make time for yourself. \u00a0You are done No more giving everything for others. Cheers! \u00a0Bottoms UP! \u00a0Hurrah for SPORTIN\u2019 OL\u2019 YOU!<\/p>\n 5.)\u00a0Do: become very friendly with your doctors. \u00a0Share the jokes you read, hear, and love with them and they will LOVE seeing YOU and YOU will get better care. \u00a0Bring them a copy of a great book you just read. \u00a0LOVE, them and they will care about YOU, more.\u00a0Moreover: being the favorite patient of a great doctor has many social benefits.<\/p>\n 6.) Have a daily belly laugh. \u00a0Yes, this is time for comedy. \u00a0This is time for laughing until others in the chemo-center give you funny looks. \u00a0Make a practice of laughing. \u00a0Call your funniest friends. \u00a0Watch humorous movies. \u00a0Read seven joke books at the doctors office<\/strong><\/span>. \u00a0Bring your most glamorous friend to chemotherapy with you, IF you are lucky she will be Italian, a tall and svelte beauty, a spiked-heeled riot of laughs of witty comments, like mine is.<\/p>\n 7.)\u00a0Address the issues: this is time to educate yourself, apply the SEVEN BOOK RULE<\/strong><\/span>, which is Frau Kolb\u2019s favorite success tool: read seven books about your type of cancer. \u00a0Why seven? \u00a0Because then you will have an informed perspective and know what to ask your doctors. \u00a0IF you manage to gather together seven books about the culture and lingo of Cancer-Land, a weird valley, near the Abyss\u2026 which has no set maps or rules, yet plenty of gravity, mud pits, and other obstacles worthy of a pause. \u00a0YOU better learn the basics of what others have endured or in order to find the treasure buried in the middle of this surreal landscape.<\/p>\n 8.) Be super NICE to medical staff, after all, they have your life in their hands. \u00a0Don\u2019t forget your “please and thank you, for the bed pan,\u201d \u00a0Because if you are given treatment that is fair and even on-its-way-to kind you are blessed. \u00a0Be grateful.<\/p>\n 9) Ask friends or buy yourself a stunning collection of bedroom suits and gowns worthy of a Mad Men Episode. \u00a0Yes! \u00a0It is time to wear a turban. \u00a0You know, you always wanted to. \u00a0 You will need fresh entertaining pajamas when friends come visit. \u00a0It is very glam to remain presentable while very ill. \u00a0DO IT!<\/p>\n 10.) This is your chance to meet handsome doctors and nurses! \u00a0Don\u2019t forget that flirting with your medical staff is one healthy why of keeping everyone\u2019s spirits UP!<\/p>\n 11.) Be invited to The Grand Cancer Ball and give a rambling talk on how fabulous your new collection of wigs are! \u00a0Enjoy playing dress up, when your hair falls out whip out the wigs (note: plural, IF you dare have fun with it. \u00a0A blue bob, in my book is d\u2019riguer<\/em><\/span>.)<\/p>\n 12.) This is your chance to cash in all favors and make all the outrageous requests you desire. \u00a0Go for it! \u00a0No one will fault you. \u00a0Finally! \u00a0Freedom to be a cancer DIVA is a blessing.<\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n\u00a9 Magnus Petterson PHOTO Frau Kolb in the Studio, 19 February 2010<\/h6>\n