{"id":2790,"date":"2017-08-02T13:14:53","date_gmt":"2017-08-02T20:14:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.talkinggrid.com\/?p=2790"},"modified":"2017-08-02T18:03:59","modified_gmt":"2017-08-03T01:03:59","slug":"dying-mothers-advice-children-ten-commandments","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/talkinggrid.com\/dev\/dying-mothers-advice-children-ten-commandments\/","title":{"rendered":"A dying mother’s advice to her children: The \u201cMore Than Ten Commandments\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"

In the face of death, Caridad Kolb wrote these final words of wisdom to her beloved children to guide them\u00a0through their\u00a0teenage years. She wrote these guidelines, knowing that she wouldn\u2019t be there for them in person, only in spirit. These are words that teach Love, Kindness, Dignity and Respect.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Best wishes,<\/p>\n

Hartmuth Kolb<\/p>\n

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Guidance from the hospital bed<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Caridad B. Kolb: \u201cDear Luke, Annabella, and most of all my beloved Papi<\/em>,<\/p>\n

Here are my More Than Ten Commandments<\/b> to YOU:<\/p>\n

Love is GOD\/Goddess\/Goodness.\u00a0 Love is what you owe yourself.\u00a0<\/em> Love is living your life with dignity.\u00a0 Love your father, brother, sister, and mother.\u00a0 Love is forever.\u00a0 Love NEVER dies.\u00a0 Love is caring.\u00a0 Love is kindness. \u00a0 Love is action.\u00a0 Love is forgiveness.\u00a0 Love is NOT FORGETTING.\u00a0 Love is never a theory.\u00a0 Love is a gentle touch and focused listening.\u00a0 Love is learning to be a better person, everyday.\u00a0 Love is feeling gratitude for life and respect for the living.<\/p>\n

Reading, thinking, kindness, and courtesy are life skills.<\/em>\u00a0 Together, these four habits will give anyone a better life.\u00a0 Any problem in life can be dealt with by staying calm and reading, always apply the Seven Book Rule.\u00a0 Read every day.\u00a0 Study best in the morning and read before bed. Discuss books.\u00a0 Become friends ONLY with other avid reader\/thinkers because only smart people will be able to be good—loyal— friends to you when you need them.\u00a0 True friendship requires thought.\u00a0 Thoughtful people have learned how to control themselves and think out many potential solutions to whatever problems they face.\u00a0 Notice how people behave and remember that who-ever you spend lots of time with you will become more like them.\u00a0 So\u2026 BE SELECTIVE!<\/p>\n

Exercise, as in physical activity, must be integrated into daily routines.<\/em>\u00a0 Walk to work\/school (always paying attention where you are going, always notice who follows you, avoid being kidnapped).\u00a0 Walk the dog after a healthy dinner (organic meat and veggies).\u00a0 Ride your bikes, often.\u00a0 Play sports.\u00a0 Skiing.\u00a0 Sailing.\u00a0 Basketball could be a good ticket for Annabella.\u00a0 Baseball might be just the right sport for, Luke.\u00a0 Soccer is good for both. \u00a0 Music instruction helps brain development and relaxation.\u00a0 Classics, mythology, and theology are good supplemental interests.\u00a0 Cooking, knitting, dance, sewing, piano and painting classes upon classes for both kids\u2026\u00a0 LANGUAGE ARTS: communication, the more languages you speak fluently, and politely, the BETTER!<\/p>\n

Sex is serious.\u00a0 Save it for the people YOU really LOVE and TRUST.<\/em>\u00a0 YOU will not be ready for SEX until your body is fully developed and you are able to take care of yourself, incase a baby is made\u2026\u00a0 then IF you decide have a child, you can count on us to help you with whatever choice YOU make. \u00a0 Daddy and Mommy are always around to help.\u00a0 Share your body, your kisses and hugs, only with people that are clean, careful, and promise to share themselves only with you.\u00a0 Be careful because, unless you are ready to have a BABY you should not do what it take to make babies, which is having sex.<\/p>\n

BE AWARE that some people will be willing to steal your heart or your things, to trick you, to hurt you<\/em> for money or for FUN (Evil people actually<\/i> enjoy hurting others.\u00a0 Your pain is their pleasure).\u00a0 YOU can avoid getting hurt by paying attention and being aware that when some people get close to you it is not with good intentions.\u00a0 So always watch, listen, and learn and change your plans in response to new information.\u00a0 IF a person is mean to you once, be aware that they are very likely to make a habit of it, and become meaner.\u00a0 EVERYTHING GETS EASIER with practice and the more you practice anything the better you will become at it.\u00a0 Thus\u2026 GET AWAY from mean people as soon as you realize they are not caring.\u00a0 Be aware that others may be jealous that you know how to behave and take care of yourself\/possessions and mostly<\/i> they don\u2019t.\u00a0 Remember, most people\u2019s parents do not invest the time\/energy\/love we have focused on YOU.<\/p>\n

You must protect yourself.\u00a0<\/em> Learn to say, \u201cNo Thank YOU!\u201d To anyone that wants\/tries to give you trouble or trick you into trying risky behaviors or doing damage to your body, for example, you will meet people that will offer you smoke, pills, powders, injections, and even candies that are designed to make you feel FUNNY.\u00a0 They will claim that these substances will make you feel good.\u00a0 BE AWARE that anyone selling or giving you drugs is a BAD PERSON, trying to trick you, use you, hurt you, and make you a slave.<\/p>\n

Addiction is one of the worst forms of slavery.<\/em>\u00a0 Some of the worst poisonous street drugs will make you crave\/want to have more and more of them, while making YOU feel sick, when you don\u2019t have money to pay for them.\u00a0 (Some people end up committing crimes to get money for drugs.)\u00a0 This can happen to anyone that uses drugs or alcohol with urgency.\u00a0 Observe people and DON\u2019T FALL INTO this common trap.\u00a0 Be careful with what you put in your body and do NOT accept people into your life that use addictive substances, drugs, or exhibit \u201crisky behaviors.\u201d\u00a0 There are many people that are addicted to gambling, overeating, and other \u201cthrill,\u201d experiences.\u00a0 Notice people\u2019s habits, hobbies, preferences, and statements.\u00a0 Listen to them.\u00a0 Do not become friends with people that are sneaky.\u00a0 Be aware of what others eat, do, say.\u00a0 Stay away from people that seem focused more on FUN than on doing their daily work.\u00a0 There is no shortcut to learning in life.\u00a0 YOU must work everyday to become a good grown-up like Mommy and Papi.<\/p>\n

You must decide who is a worthy acquaintance and who you are better off avoiding<\/em>.\u00a0 YOU must pay attention, in order to avoid, inviting drug addicts and\/or other types of criminals into your world.\u00a0 They are dangerous and unreliable people.\u00a0 They fell for the lie(s) of other tricky people and now they want to lure you into their world of evil.\u00a0 Yet, by paying attention you can distinguish good from bad people and create lasting relationships with worthy, well raised, people that have self respect and self control like YOU!<\/p>\n

Tattoos are a BAD IDEA.\u00a0<\/em> The people that get them have a harder time getting and keeping good jobs.\u00a0 Don\u2019t do this stupid thing to your beautiful skin.\u00a0 Take care of yourself, your hair, hands, eyes, BODY.\u00a0 Your body belongs to you and NO ONE has the right to touch you.\u00a0 YOUR Mother and FATHER will always LOVE you and protect you.\u00a0 WE care.\u00a0 We are strong.\u00a0 If anything happens to one of us, THANK GOD and GOODNESS you will always have our LOVE, which we have already given you. \u00a0 Fortunately, we have been able to spend more time together than most parents will EVER spend with their children, already.\u00a0 Remember to thank god that you have had, already, so much LOVE.\u00a0 Thank god for your LIFE everyday and everyday become a better person.<\/p>\n

Self respect and Self control are the most important traits<\/em>.\u00a0 You cannot control others.\u00a0 YOU must, therefore, control yourself to stay calm and alert, always learning, thinking, and avoiding problems.<\/p>\n

Observe others.\u00a0 Pay attention<\/em>.\u00a0 Learn names.\u00a0 Look at people\u2019s faces when they speak to you.\u00a0 Answer questions with full sentences.\u00a0 Listen to people, think about what you will say BEFORE speaking.\u00a0 PLAN your LIFE.<\/p>\n

Protect yourself and be aware that most people are NOT taught to think, read, or eat properly LIKE YOU.\u00a0<\/em> Keep your observations of other\u2019s short comings to yourself but always improve your behavior.\u00a0 NOTICE what works: when you behave yourself people will like you, you will have friends, FUN, and a good life.\u00a0 IF you cannot listen you can and will get in HOT WATER.\u00a0 So\u2026 make good choices.\u00a0 BE SMART.\u00a0 Stay close to each other, make time to listen and learn from each other, stick together.<\/p>\n

Reading List:<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cThe Elements of Style,\u201d by Strunk and White
\n\u201cHow to Win Friends and Influence People,\u201d Dale Carnegie
\n\u201cThe Rules,\u201d
\n\u201cRED FLAGS,\u201d
\n\u201cHow Children Succeed,\u201d
\n\u201cTeach your Child to think,\u201d
\n\u201cA Short Guide to Writing About ART.\u201d<\/p>\n

Books on personality, people watching, bird watching, gardening, art history, dogs, human nature, anthropology, meditation, cults, brainwashing, predators, criminology, self-defense, and nature\u2026. Are important.\u00a0 Develop your mind, body, and know that you will be prized for your knowledge and remembered by your loved ones.<\/p>\n

Yours truly,<\/p>\n

Caridad B. Kolb”<\/p>\n

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Always embracing life. Always.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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