“Rodent,” part of “Australian Animals,” series © Frau Kolb, 2013
Some people decide to scurry around though life nibbling on this and that, finding their way by sheer instinct, and “living from one meal to the next.” They suffer from the NO Plan Syndrome and spend a lot of time hiding from the consequences of their actions.They assume that LIFE will “work out somehow,” and avoid making decisions because they feel that decisions are best made by fate and that they are like spectators in the theater of their own lives watching a “good show,” no matter how tragic the wasteful outcomes of living without a clue may be.
After forgiving, over and over, after intentionally ignoring the short comings of friends and family that have their own made lame attempts at life improvement and make it from one day to the next without a focused understanding of what really matters, of what is correct, moral behavior, and true caring are constituted by I’ve decided to avoid expecting anything from people that are simply NOT CAPABLE of GIVING.
That is right. There are some who do not have a single giving bone in their bodies. They are more than happy, on the other hand to TAKE and TAKE some more. Your resources, they see as ample, available and they shamelessly help themselves to your time, your advice, your insights, your creativity, your giant bottles of FRENCH bubbly. They FEAST on the substance of your soul, nibbling like rodents on the insides of your refined sensibilities, which YOU have worked relentlessly to hone.
You were not born enlightened. YOU simply apply the SEVEN BOOK RULE. YOU apply the RULE to every problem. YOU HIT THE BOOKS and FACE every obstacle with the dignity of the BLACK QUEEN on the chess board of LIFE. You read and reflect. You write and have insights you gleamed and synthesized, harnessed and refined through study, conversation with other avid readers, top-notch artists, world-class scientists, and self analysis. You are executing a plan you invented ass (YES by the way, YOU, know the difference between AS AND ASS yet you prefer the later because you have a nice bottom due to the mostly organic food you eat and the ease with which you are willing to walk or bike for many miles; you LOVE your body) a baby and you are living the outcome of the life you crafted. WE ALL ARE. You worked hard, probably too hard, to get this far. Yet, never forget that: WE ALL LIVE in the cave of our choosing, the hole that we dug, the world that we carved out for ourselves.
IF you are not entirely happy with who you have become, how or where you live, what you look like, who is in your bed RIGHT NOW, or any other aspect of the daily reality of your life, well… perhaps you might want to take a LOOK at what you planned for yourself and where you veered off, or perhaps YOU never planned a single thing and thus there is no surprise that you are LOST, looking around for a crumb of substances and quick to take WHATEVER you can get and run to the next crumb.
STOP IT!
Wake up to the fact that tomorrow will come and that what you do today has a direct outcome on what your life will be like in the future. You want people to LOVE you, well be prepared to LOVE yourself first and take real care of BEAUTIFUL YOU. Don’t let yourself be the unimportant person, the uninvited guest, at the PARTY that your LIFE might be IF you focus on creating a life worth living.
YOU are not a rodent. IF you have the brain power, internet connection, and English language skills to read all the way through to the end of this piece it is because you have invested in yourself to get this far. This is NOT a given and do not take it for granted, respect yourself, your individual talents and your considerable efforts. If you are having trouble seeing yourself as a worthwhile person (which is, by-the-way, an essential element in being one) then make a list of ALL the things you CAN DO and all the ways in which YOU GIVE and all the ways in which you have improved and refined who you are, over the years. Yes, a list.
I’m a big fan of lists.
To-Do Lists. Work Done Lists. Pro/Con Lists. All kinds of lists, all kinds of writing, because all of it adds UP to the Grand Plan that every individual’s LIFE requires, it is to have constant direction, to take responsibility for the shape your LIFE takes, to make it worth living through the adversity (which will surely HIT you ass LIFE always does NO matter how many books you read, how much ca$h you have in the bank, overcoming the obstacles, and continuing toward goals that sometimes seem almost impossible to achieve is only possible IF you have pre-determined and consciously decided precisely who you intend to be on YOUR JOURNEY.
So… make yourself a list, if you don’t have one, of Things YOU will Achieve, or Places To Visit, Five Non-Negotiable Qualities in a Mate, or whatever other aspect of your life needs attention, address your reality, make an effort to create a LIFE worthy of your active participation, because watching the HORROR the HORROR of it from a little cave-den corner, LIKE, a spectacle on television is NOT the same as living it UP.
So, wake UP and get it together. Create your proper place in the world by defining what your mission is and how, exactly you are here to HELP others, and make LIFE better for others, which is really the only worthwhile pursuit.
Now, for those of you reading this and asking, “How does this relate to spotting people with poor judgement or flimsy morals?” Well, anybody without a clear understanding the working, thinking, meditating required of anyone that is to be successful, will never be and could never be a successful, in other words, giving person. They will take your resources and RUN. They will not reciprocate because they have NO THING to give. People can only show up for others when they have shown up, stood up for themselves at key moments, and taken control of their own lives so that they aren’t living like rodents from one morsel of whatever-they-can-get to the next random bit. So, avoid those people that have no plan and thus nothing worthwhile to offer. In the process, make room in your life for quality people that have LIKE you, have plenty to give, can make time to share, and are willing to show up for YOU and others, regularly.
Capiche?
Best regards,
Frau Kolb
Oct 14, 2013, 5:51 AM