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Farewell Philadelphia! Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Farewell Philadelphia! Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Dearest among beloved American Cities,

Philadelphia, I love you! You are so pretty! I love your location between three rivers the river and the Delaware, Schuylkill, and the Wissahickon. You are so sparkly and central. You figure prominently in history. Yet, I suspect the BEST is YET to come! We can all learn a lot from a visit to you, Love. You are one of the oldest, yet active, and powerful of American cities. Yet you still have fresh stories to tell and your are as inviting as a young lady in her best attire.

I dig your art museums. I was at the Philadelphia Museum of Art, not too long ago with Mr. Ron Schira, (the artist/art critic is attending Art Miami Basel 2012 with the Talkinggrid) and Mr. Goings. I am looking forward to visiting the Rodin Museum, once it emerges from the stupor of restoration. Also on my list of places to visit is The Institute of Contemporary Art, the ICA, which is a part of Penn State University and is said to be an “muy importante,” location. Because they showed Andy Warhol and Laurie Anderson’s work at pivotal junctions in their careers, among other notable art mega-stars.

Oh MY GOODNESS, Philadelphia, you are a seriously RICH BEE-ACH! So much innovation! So much history! You have the most amazing wealth of educational options for children and adults a like. Moreover, you open yourself up to exploration. You are easy to navigate. In nearly every corner of the city’s easy walking grid, there are trains, buses, taxis, boisterous yet self contained street seers, and mingling among other modes of cosmic and mundane public transportation, which might take one as easily from one fold in the universe to the next university. It is remarkable. The possibilities!

YOU have that fabulous sixty mile park of uninterrupted bike path, a wooded joy. The pace of the city can be almost as fast as that of my beloved Manhattan. Yet, being a little smaller and a little less crowded is a plus, in my book. Your citizens, take time to greet one another, polite in the minor interactions.

Philadelphia!

Thank you so much, I spent four days here, exploring just a little of your riches. I stayed at the Embassy Suites in the Center City. It was a great location. The staff was friendly and helpful. The room was vast by New York City or Los Angeles standards. They served a wonderfully greasy breakfast, which I was able to work off at their small but adequate gym! But the BEST was the open bar in the evenings, the “Manganger’s Reception,” which really made coming back to the hotel in the evenings a gemütlich experience. Philadelphia invites walking. Thus, I was able to walk and on my first night evening in town I walked all the way to Society Hill. They have a great art house movie theater, The Ritz, that is very inviting. (They were playing “Lincoln,” starring Daniel Day Lewis––an excellent actor I once or twice had the pleasure of meeting, while living with friends in Dublin Ireland’s famous Balls Bridge, area, by the way, the film tickets were sold out.) The selection of movies was great. It even included, a Landmark Theater’s exclusive, “A Royal Affair”, a costume romance drama. I love those films before Christmas!

I also found a perfect restaurant for a single (married) lady to enjoy a fine glass of deep RED wine and some delicious tapas; the Urban Entnoteca. The service was appropriate and the wine was meaty. When the bill came I felt I’d been treated fairly. I’d recommend this spot any day.

A Day later, I was a-washed in delight. Strolling down past Logan Circle. The Swann Memorial Its water spewing monumentally scaled river frogs, swans and gigantic personifications of the three rivers that distinguish the city, pulsating with joy. Water spraying invitation, over the printed words “NO SWIIMMING,” it is a Philadelphia tradition to take a dip in the fountain during the hot summer months and I promise myself to return and baptize myself in the water spray, soon!

I missed visiting LOVE Park, But I am sure to return to Philadelphia so that I can make a sketch of the famous public sculpture by Robert Indiana! Ah! (I have a digital video, companion piece to these musings, which I promise to post almost immediately, but first the piece requires a requires a light edit.)

The AUTUMN colors were out in FULL GLORY this year! The bright golden yellow leaves stood in high contrast to the burnt burgundy of the Japanese maples. My goodness, what beauty driving to the main-line suburbs on Saturday. The streets were packed as a mini-marathon was underway. People everywhere wearing smiles of anticipation. The festivities had real energy. I’d have love to join the runners and participate in the half marathon.

In general, I find the people a nice blend urbane kindness and proper conduct. These are people used to the real spread of possibility. They know that it takes all kinds of folks to make the world go round and they are actively pushing for it to spin at just the right speed. Here, in Philadelphia there is a feeling that American history is positively alive. Many streets are labeled with wonderful placards that give you a nutshell account of the historic import of the block you NOW walk on. Any kid, of any age, with a curious mind will feel at home in this wonderful and inviting town.

On Sunday afternoon, I walked to meet my ART pals, Ola Mañana and La Suzy of California, for a trip to the Barnes Foundation. (I will leave the controversy to be covered by the authoritative Ms. Mañana. She is working on providing solid coverage with the full scoop of truth we all crave.) They came in from Brooklyn and Manhattan to me ME! Frau Kolb!

After we HIT the Barnes Museum. We gals strolled over to the public library. Ms. Mañana wanted to check out the Dickens exhibit. So, we popped into the building and She was like a child getting an favorite treat. WE LOVE OLA’s enthusiasm for LIFE and Charles Dickens is her absolute favorite. Sweetheart, that SHE is!

Next we swaggered over to Whole Foods. Roasted Chicken, organic salad, prepared corn, and other goodies including the most wonderful selection of Big Dipper Beeswax travel candles which I depend on for creating just the right atmosphere in any location. We chose “Rapture,” and “Harmony.” I am writing with “Vitality,” lit as I do most early mornings (I get up before five am everyday (almost) to update the site). Later I will blow it out in favor of “Clarity,” for the briefest of edits before I post this little THANK YOU note to the city of Philadelphia for being so beautiful, inspiring, and ART RICH!

The climax and finale of the quick trip into Philadelphia’s many culinary offerings was a delicious raw OYSTER BLOW OUT at Parc, on Ritten Square. The briny medium to small delights were scarfed down with French Champagne, of course. Making my time in Philadelphia, just before the holidays, 2012, a perfect launch for the Holiday Season!

Darling ol’ girl YOU are my kind of town. I shall return!

Love,

Frau

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Honolulu For Celebrating Milestones and Family Unity

What a TRIP!

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Photo(s), courtesy of Dr. HC Kolb © 2013.

We stayed at the Hilton Hawaiian Village, in Oahu, again.  (This location has the advantage of having a private beach, with kids activities, snorkeling, dinner cruises, and the best fireworks show on Friday nights.) This time we had a corner room in the Tapa Tower.  Last time, we stayed at the Rainbow Tower.  Both experiences left a good taste in our mouths.  Because our rooms were spacious, if expensive, and comfortably appointed.  High up, the views are impressive.  Beware of vertigo!  It is so high UP and still little birds arrive looking for scraps on our balcony.  Diamond Head and the Bay sparkling with ant-sized boats, imaged outriggers, and the vast Pacific ocean, teeming with life.  Humans come from all over the world to celebrate their peak moments in Honolulu’s warm embrace.

The thick ocean air, kisses your face, fragrant breezes massage your skin… Ah!

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Underwater photo, courtesy of Dr. HC Kolb © 2013, no reproduction without permission.

What a way to celebrate turning 40!  The triumph over a family’s greatest challenge!  Whatever the reason, Hawaii is the place to GO!  YOU want to be there to celebrate your life’s milestones.  YOU need a dip in the warm waters.  You are ready to dance the Hula.   The adventure of LIFE is alive and raw in that excellent city, Honolulu.  It may be developed, a hard little nugget of a glittering city, studded with high-end shopping venues on par with Rodeo Drive, in Los Angeles, California and top-notch boutique hotels, but the island has jungle hiking trails that will delight the novice, the family man, the native, and the experienced globe trekker, alike.

Ja!

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It wasn’t a given that we would make it this far.  Those that know, are aware of how much ground we crossed in the last few years, and how we (all) faced difficult conditions, in the spirit of learning to love LIFE more, and thus, WE arrive at this—sacred—point in time: NOW!   Any major life transition requires special action to mark it, define it.  The traditional honeymoon in Hawaii works, for example, in that no one can say that “little America,” the islands of the Pacific are anything short of dreamy, a GREAT place to launch a life-long LOVE partnership.  Just as the passage from winter to spring, the graduation of a loved one might be a great excuse to get down to Hawaii for some much needed rest and relaxation.

YES!  WE must prioritize caring for ourselves.

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The key message shared in, “The Vacation Approach,” an unpublished book by Frau Kolb was that LIFE must be lived as an ongoing vacation. What do WE really want to do?  What is really important?  Let us connect with our LOVED ones while we have them.  Let us GO to Hawaii while its beauty withstands the assault of the littering tourists (those horrible humans who feel it is okay to leave plastic wrappers, bottles, and bags everywhere they go.)  Let us enjoy, as much as we can, this moment that sits before us.  Let us embrace the NOW, where NOW happens to be.  In other words, IF you can not now afford a little get away.  Plan your vacation and enjoy your actual location.  (Read this blog for tips on how to live the artist’s ideal life of learning, loving, and living it UP!)  Travel in books and by reading is another way to soar above the bore of same old, same old.

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IF, on the better hand, money is not an issue and you crave hard-core decadent luxury and French service, then you must hit B.L.T in Honolulu.   Delicious European classics in Las Vegas style luxury with New Yorker edge, in Honolulu bent on French service in a high-end restaurant then you simply must visit, BLT Steak.  Oh YES!  It is so good.  You will love it.  Juicy!  This is food that we advise vegetarians avoid.  Moreover, this an establisment catering to those on a tight budget.  But it is pure carnivore heaven to go when you want to splurge on a thick Porterhouse, for two, served in cast iron, with sides of garden fresh vegetable and excellent tender green salad,  preceded by Pacific oysters—so fresh and briny.  This is the elegant dining location to mark a memorable evening with best friends and beloved (carnivore) family.  Yet, it is NOT for everyone (vegetarians, you could order a grilled veggie plater!  I’m sure it would be excellent).  IF you want to celebrate an important event and want the team service to work like a dream around you.  Try, knocking a piece of silver of the table and watch the head waiter catch it before it hits the floor.  Or don’t, because really that isn’t the kind of thing a polite and well-bred person like YOU would even consider doing for a bit of bad-taste fun.  But, if happen to push a fork off the table, by accident, KNOW that the service will notice before you are inconvenienced by the diving piece of silver.

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You might also enjoy, Kaiwa,  Japanese cuisine for lunch.  Quiet.  Elegant.  On a second floor and frequented by locals.  This spot is a refuge from the chain restaurant culture, the noise, the ubiquitous flat screen televisions, and cheap American food.  It is a comfortable, but not tremendously luxurious, place you want to sink into the deep padded leather booths lining the restaurant and enjoy a moment of nourishing Japanese cuisine.

Travel helps fortify the soul, the spirit.

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img_0372_medIF you have never snorkeled in Honomanu Bay in Oahu: You MUST but, first, you have to watch the nine minute conservation and safety film.  YOU don’t want to die in Hawaii.  You want to have a good time.  Therefore, you require instruction on how to respect the life that lives in the reefs and coral.  It is time YOU get cozy with the idea that our reality depends on being mindful of LIFE, limits, and LOVING the environment, and showing that LOVE by restricting our personal use of natural resources, honoring the material world, so that life may endure and WE, my friends, continue to thrive.

 

© Frau Kolb 2013

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Travel Bright

23 TIPS on How and Why to Fly, NOW!

Flying in from Los Angeles to New York or back and forth is a routine familiar to many bi-costal commuters.  Yet not everyone finds pleasure in constant travel.  The many restrictions and the potential for loss is high when one is going away from home.  Security, Terrorism and Other Hazards plague the transition between “Arrival and Departure.” Yet, travel is intensely important.   We cannot avoid it.  Without travel, we are stuck in ONE place. Furthermore, we cannot maintain our far-flung friendships and many attachments without getting on a plane, occasionally.  Getting out to see old friends and perhaps family is a way of maintaining one’s status, relationships, and memories.  Creating NEW impressions of places known before is vital to feeling ALIVE.

Perhaps, we loss a part of ourselves if we do not get on a plane a GO see a museum exhibit in another city just because it relates to some arcane topic we studied in college.  Without planes, it seems, we cannot unlock our full human potential!  Of course, some people like Emily Dickinson (who famously wrote moving poetry from the self imposed prison, in an attic, without the benefit of actual trips or internet connection, managed to travel through books and in her imagination quite effectively).  Poets…  unlike most people can (time) travel (yet… this is another topic).   Unless YOU have the gift of reading (and writing) between the lines… don’t try it in public. OK?

The obvious key is to successful airplane travel is packing BRIGHT.  Take a little of what makes you happy, comfortable, and content at home.  It is right to fine-tune what one must have in order to function.  In this way, we are all different as snowflakes.  What you have in your bag will not work for me.  Yet, Talkinggrid’s 23 Must Have Travel Items are a simple yet tried and true method for staying On-Top of getting around.

Before the trip:

1.Get ready to Practice Politeness.  This is an opportunity to appreciate the little things people do for your safety.  Searching your bags, for example, is an important function for TSA agents to perform.  IF they neglect to check some bags, some times, we’d think we were not getting our money’s worth. So… we appreciate the people that do this (mostly boring) job.

2. Be prepared to eliminate doubt about your identity.  Thus, taking seriously the oracle at Delphi’s recommendation of “know thy self.” If you do not have valid identification you are not going anywhere conventional, quickly.  Thus, those of us who can verify that we are who we claim to be are SOMEBODY, at the airport where it counts.

3. Another perk of travel is that it gives you the opportunity to “expand your portfolio of experience.”  You are fascinating.  You write.  Read. Paint.  Dance. Sing.  Yet performing all these marvelous skills in previously unknown cities can be hugely life-enhancing since whenever you arrive in a new city you have the advantage of being vulnerable and confused and thus interesting to predators and admires, alike. Bravo! Make the MOST of IT!

Remember: Aerial Views are special.  We don’t get to see all the little houses and think about how small we really are unless we are UP here in the air LOOKING DOWN and seeing that what cost millions to the individual is but a spec on the patchwork quilt that is a nation.

4.  Most importantly, Get a Grip!  Every time you leave HOME on a major trip you are embarking on more than a mere journey from here to there.  YOU are making decisions about what matters to YOU.  What is important enough to get YOU and only YOU out of bed?   WHAT must YOU pack that I wouldn’t pack?  Tell me, pretty please.

5. Make time for enjoying the trip.  Don’t forget that it can be fun to explore the airport.  Past security there are shops, restaurants, and plenty of opportunities for relaxation, including those inviting coin operated massaging chairs.

  1. BAGS INSIDE BAGS!   Packing everything in a tot or overnight bag and THEN put it in your luggage… Hah! It makes you so… more prepared for shopping or mini-trips within your over-arching or BIG trip; try taking an extra tot with a fanny-pack full of makeup; that WORKS.  YOU get by better by having much more than one bag with you, always.

 

On the Plane:

  1. The Carry On, itself must be pretty.

You don’t want your bag looking like anyone else’s.

(Mine is a lavender floral print by Anna Sui for Tumi with a load of interior pockets, including a lined pouch for jewelry.  It works for me.)

  1. The Airport Pic-Nic.  Who can stand to eat what passes for food in most cases?  Not I. Thus, I bring my own home-cooked fresh meals, on board.   You may think this is a bit much.  Yet, I find it more economical and healthy to cook, contain, travel items.  transport, and enjoy the food I know is made fresh and to my specifications than to hope and eat whatever I can get.  That is why Whole Foods offers thermal bags.  Buy a few, use them regularly, and make your life better.
  2. The Eye Mask.  Give yourself some time to relax.  Check out.  Snooze.
  1. Wash your hands with extra care; bring along a quality Nail Brush.  Nothing beats having very clean hands, fingernails, and being well groomed.   Taking a moment to massage your hands, think about life, and reflect how lucky we are to have running water… is priceless.
  1. Don’t forget to Moisturize and hydrate.  Drink plenty of water before, after, and during your flight.  It will keep all systems running smoothly and the exercise of walking down the isle of a long air-plane in flight, several times will do you better than just sitting there.
  1. Noise cancelling headsets, Bose Speakers, for example, (or at least ear-plugs) can mean the difference between enjoying some rest and quiet time or… NOT.  Noise cancelling headsets work well to erase the voices of the two aging hookers that have seats behind you… or that monstrously energetic child’s wailing… providing the cushion of silence… your soundscape matters to you, for some of us, SILENCE is everything.
  1. Analogue Journal(s).  This is a solid block of time when you will not be interrupted.  You can write.  You can write your little bleeding heart OUT.  You can write poems to the clouds!  You can write a staggering list of Forgotten Lovers you wish you’d had!  You can write what kinds of parties you intend to have for your loved ones in the coming years.  Get to all the self-indulgent ego-boasting writing, you always want(ed) to do, now!

In your Carry On:

  1. Pack Gloves.  In all weathers, gloves are a gift to the self.  They protect your hands and light-weight ones keep your hands soft and germs off the finger tips. Thicker ones keep sensitive hands warm.  Gloves, leather or knit, are small yet high impact Sports gloves, for example ensure that you will be prepared to use the gym at the hotel.  Snow gloves make fights with packed balls of icy moister, FUN!
  2. A Selection of Hats.  Always carry a knit hat or two, they are tiny and make a huge difference in how comfy you are in ultra air-conditioned plane rides from here to there.  Also wear a proper hat, something fashionable to go with your jacket and slacks, which you take off in order to go through security.  Just the act of taking off your hat, makes you LOOK civilized.  Civilized is better in the world of air travel, deal with it.
  3. Cashmere Scarves!   Life without the lightweight warmth of cashmere wool may not be worth living.  I know. It was difficult before I discovered the major pluses inherent in the plushness, this soft and fine stuff provides. Two or three, good scarves fit anywhere and define YOU, dashing.  I prefer deep colors: tomato red, eggplant, and coffee scarves make me feel cozy and approachable.  Also remember: big plush, thicker, scarves can serve as blankets and improvised extra baggage.  The ladies in South Africa wear big ones, with which they wrap their babies around their bodies, while getting from here to there.   LOVE!
  4. Silk Blouses and Cotton Tank Tops: Light weight, breathable, silk is a traveling girl’s best friend.  Pack five blouses in your carry on they take up NO SPACE and you are consistently well dressed!  Wear them on their own or under wool sweaters to keep warm.  (Cotton, shelf bra, tank-tops, with a little elastic, are wonderful underneath.  Or… in the tropics… may stand alone as an eye-catching top, in a pinch.
  5. Under Garments: YOU must have seven days of fresh underwear with you NO MATTER where or how long you go for, IF traveling on a plane.  You never know when you get stuck somewhere and this is the one area of your carry-on reality you can and will control.  Unparalleled comfort comes from finding you have clean knickers, a feeling of instant power from a quick change into fresh underwear, no matter where –––precisely––– your earthly travels take you.  Fresh underwear will make YOU feel worthy of respect; away from home.
  1. The Neck Pillow:  protect your strangely vulnerable, fragile, yet vital, part of your body, THE NECK, is protected and ensconced from jiggle in transit. IF you don’t have ONE then I suggest you buy one at the airport.

Once you arrive you will need:

  1. Bath Salts and Oils.  As soon as you arrive you will want to take a long soak.  You need this to unwind, relax, and disinfect yourself from all the bugs and germs that are a part of sharing air with many strangers from all over the planet.  In the morning: you will want to have a WAKE UP or orange, grapefruit, lime-citrus soak to get you going, again.  In the evening: lavender, chamomile, or red-wine anti-oxidant soak will do YOU fine.
  2. The Travel Library: in airports, and trips, perhaps even more than at home, we have the opportunity to read real books, with pages, made of paper.  (Think of all the delightful paperbacks, begging to be read.  Paper books, one can sink into, a literary bath of words for the brain to soak in!)

Take TIME with those slow and softly turning paper pages, for they will be gone soon… unless—of course—virulent nostalgia grips the polis and…  If you don’t mind hauling around a selection of reading material, YOU are an exceptional being, in my book. (It is amazing, by the way, how many very thin books worthy of re-reading exist.  Strunk and White’s “Elements of Style,” and Dale Carnegie’s  “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” are two book I recommend everybody read again and again) pretty please.

  1. Writing and Drawing Materials.  In a very positive way it totally pleases me to paint in public.  Funnily, I’m good at concentrating with a crowd around.  Maybe because I’m the last of five children.  You may find that making a rough sketch of a memory or the flight attendant gives you a buzz unlike any other.
  2. A Laptop!   Of course, you were planning on bringing your portable computer along.  This is your chance to work on the Great American Novel or write your next blog entry.  NOW, get to it and enjoy your trip!  Bon voyage!

There YOU GO!

23 TIPS

Graciously from,

Frau Kolb

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Crashed at the Standard

Dearest Readers of The Talkinggrid,

img_5432_medThank you, for following this moody blogger upon a few luxury adventures in learning to live more fully in the flow of the cosmic creative urge.  Forgive me for neglecting to keep you informed on the many happenings and intense drama, behind the scenes, in Frau Kolb or Talkinggrid, Land… anyway… You are cherished here.  Talkinggrid appreciates every click, donation, and welcomes advertisers to consider the quality of its following. You, legions, of active educated engaged reader are special humans: artsy, creative, informed and afluent YOU come from all over, together we explore a beevy of possibilities.  I remind you to read up under Zoom in With Frau Kolb for achieved material (when I fail to update the front cover you can always dig in deeper into the art adventures already published.)

This weekend I had a focused BLAST of big room relaxation, at The Standard Hotel in Downtown, Los Angeles. My best DUDE art PAL: Marty Walker and I downed a couple spicy bloody Marys promptly delivered to our, “WOW ROOM!”  after Mr. Walker, departed for his fabulous digs nearby.  Say “Hi!,” to beautiful Lady Lanchaster and thank you Mr. Walker for standing by my side after I had an epic melt down on Saturday Night.

Have you ever had a public temper tantrum?  Let me assure you: I HAVE!

Fortunately, the tub in the room was ocean sized and I used an entire bottle of Mr. Bubble, to get a worthy foam going and myself afloat, once again.

Oh!  Sweet Jesus…earlier, I was sizzling!  Thank goodness, I have real friends and The Standard Hotel to back me up when I need a cool room with a giant rubber foot in it, for climbing and high mirrored walls and a Roman orgy sized shower, the room comes equipped with a window side desk, just in case one is caught in the clutches of inspiration, past midnight and demands reams of Standard Hotel paper to write one’s Magnus Opus.…  What a splendid environment for decompressing and recovering one’s sacred calm!  I am especially grateful to STAR at the front desk, you live up to your name, and are a great asset to The Standard Hotel in Downtown, Los Angeles, which is one of my favorite party hotels.

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Frau Kolb Bathing at The Standard Hotel in Downtown Los Angeles

Years ago, I stayed at The Standard Hotel in Downtown Los Angeles, California, after dancing all night at their roof-top poolside party outdoor patio/lounge with my then friends, a couple of tall Mexican Women, I haven’t seen since.  Hah!  I also had some fun at the Hollywood location about a decade ago… I’ve been around.  Hah!  I’m an old hat at blowing my top and having a blast at luxury hotels around this super fun planet of ours.  Yep, that is what Frau stands for…

Life! So many FUN hotels and restaurants…  a lifetime to discover the joys of travel and wine, while visiting art treasures and discovering visual artists around the world.  Here on www.talkinggrid.com you will not get the regular NEWS.  Here you tap into Frau Kolb’s unique perspective or  version of reality.  I am sure you find it refreshing that someone, at least ONE person, is  living it UP, carefree, and bubbly even when failing to be the world’s calmest or most stable being yet continuing to show up for the theater and drama that adds spice to otherwise dull, LIFE, is my forte!

Many thanks,

Frau Kolb

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Bathing is the answer to almost any question in my quiet book of dreams and birdsong.
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Caribbean Roots & Personal History

The Museum of The New World El Museo de Las Américas deserves a visit and more funding for African Studies. I’d love to see the understanding and scholarship focused on the countless valuable lost human lives.  I’d like to see these missing histories recovered and restored, polished and displayed, full of their inherent glory.  For every human story is one of survival, strength, and fortitude.  You just have to cast reality in the bright light of romantic thinking.

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“Was hast du gesagt?”

I insisted we visit El Museo de Nuestras Raices Africanas in Old/Viego San Juan Puerto Rico.  Unless we really aimed, we were not going get there.  The target was an hour away via auto.  In order to visit the museum we had to escape from the manicured reality of vacation paradise.  It was so glaringly comfortable, at the resort, we almost couldn’t leave.  Hot tubs, infinity pools, sunken bars… I was being extravagantly pampered, ensconced in pleasure, getting massages, downing Piña Coladas, making small water color paintings, and reading my beloved Judge Dee novels.

Yet… we had to go to Old San Juan.  It turned out that the Museum was not a dedicated museum anymore, rather a mere suite of rooms or a salas, a devoted to the plight of a portion of the ancestors of our Caribbean forefathers, in the larger museo.

The culmination of the trans-national flight was to be in Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic.  We were planning to visit my father’s grave, with the children. Thereby, creating indelible family memories.   A sub-text to the trip was helping me to reconnect with myself.  Any deep questioning of the self may prompt you to visit ancestral lands and places where you are instantly factored in as a vital part of the community.  My pueblo, the people of Caribbean and I connect, click… being immediately familiar, yet appropriately formal, as we are…   Therefore, there was no resistance, only the unwavering laser focus of my husband, propelling us toward leaving the staged comfort of our resort in Fajador, a sea-side marvel, made complete by its private beaches on Palomillo Island to visit the city of Old San Juan and specifically the museum where I hoped to learn more about the humans that were abducted and introduced to the Caribbean as chattel, the African slaves forcibly imported to the “so called,” NEW WORLD.

My loving Big Scientist German husband worked his magic to execute this significant excursion out of the usual travel loop to Hawaii, which he loves and has kept us flying west and very rarely east, for several years…    He knows exactly what I require to unwind: a private beach, a doting staff, fried plantains, watercolor tablet at the ready, a stack of Judge Dee Murder Mysteries, and plenty of rum, to boot!  Yet, this trip was about more than mere poolside decadence with a splash of creativity.  It was a soul-healing journey into the facts around who I really am. 

Yet, the hands of the masseuse were small and strong, covered in olive-oil gloves, reminded me, in her effective silence that everything is done differently in the Caribbean.  The caring touch connected me with memories of my mother, she used olive oil for skin treatments, too.  Then I had a bath in coconut milk and a rice-based scrub.  They washed my hair and put a berry-red stripe in the front.  My nails were polished and I was ready to take the shuttle to Old San Juan.  We paid for a private taxi, instead.

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Post Spa Treatments: Frau Kolb is ready to visit Old San Juan

Police patrol the second oldest city in the New World, a statue of Ponce de Leon, seeker of the Fountain of Youth and first governor of Old San Juan, wearing pantaloons and armor, presides over a town square under renovation.  Hah!  The field where soldiers met with cannon balls is in resplendent display, thronging with international tourists.

This museum visit came on the heals of my trip to the Museum of Tolerance in Los Angeles California.  My intention was to take-in for the first time, really, the “African heritage,” which is evident in my fine tighter curls and milk chocolate good-looks.  People keep telling me, I’m a “black person,” yet the darkest man I ever knew was my father and he never mentioned this obvious “fact,” to me.  His own sense of identity had little to do with the his onyx hue of skin.  He had no concerns about his own racial identity.   I received little instruction in what it meant to be “Negro,” my father’s policy, was to assimilate, to blend in with the machine, erasing all traits that might make him appear foreign.  Thus, he wore suits and polo shirts… however, never able to fully blend in, he favored his polos in bright yellow, which looked great on him, …

The Afro-Latinos of Santo Domingo… Old San Juan, and… I hope to visit soon: Havana… are my people in that they recognize me. My real name, is common in the Spanish speaking Caribbean.  (Upon re-entry to the United States, I return to the land where people mispronounce my name with impunity.) I open my mouth and speak my Spanish and immediately doors fly open.  My voice is familiar and without meaning to be, commanding in a trust-worthy, generational sound of inherited privilege, which humans trust… just think how American women swoon for posh sounding British actors, take Hugh Grant, for example… my voice is reassuring to the locals, because, thanks to the fact of my wayward, unwanted, mother’s origin, I come from the social elite of our island nation(s).  Thus, my voice  is a sonic key to trust and immediate higher status in the Caribbean, the land(s) of my parents and grandparents.   It even works, sometimes outside the Caribbean.  Yet, in Los Angeles, so close to Mexico, my Caribbean Spanish is met with questioning.

I saw my grandfather’s photo for the first time, last week. 

My father was ambitious.  He married my mother because he firmly believed she was his ticket into the upper echelon of Dominican Society. One of a large family, a group of mostly Africans from the English speaking Isle of St. Croix, he saw the Dominicans as a dashing and heroic people.  Known in the Caribbean for their fabulous leader, El Jefe, their great infrastructure, and Spanish pizzazz… He idealized them.   He had read about the dazzling members of my mother’s extended family his whole life, growing up in the slums, shoe shining for needed family sustenance, his mother a domestic in a fine home, where she learned table manners… and brought these “better,” customs to her shack-home, in pieces.  Shards smuggled out from under her patron’s noses, she learned that eating was to be done on many plates and slowly… no rushing, she urged my father.  He listened with one ear and ran out the door to his next adventure until he fell in my mother’s carelessly laid, yet effective, net of beauty and welcoming gestures, knit by her fine last-name, and her descendant from the ultra-glamourous playboy and socialite’s darling, Ricart, son of the Ricart that was the brother of…  Ah!  

Spanish Conquistadors… addicted to gambling and the beauty of the native women and the importance they were vested with in the Caribbean… Who cared about them back in Europe?  
Mother was looking to get out of Dominican Republic and my father’s status a young attorney, a graduate of the local University, the first University in the New World,  The opportunity presented itself, which made him a welcome immigrant to the United States, when professionals from everywhere were invited to uproot and come earn in the land of milk and honey. His education made him a welcome immigrant to the United States, in the early seventies. His legal degree was a shining neon sign saying, “EXIT,”  to my mother, who was fed-up being a piece of meat in a country where sexism makes virtual slaves many women.   My mother was the singular secretary assigned to the thirteen recently graduated attorneys.  She has a gift for organizing.  She became a treasure to the department.  Men were vying for her attention.  Yet, was welcome and loved by my father’s mother, my namesake, upon a chance meeting.  Besides, my mother had more than her fair share of baggage.  She had had four children, who were living with her at her Aunt’s home.

Daniel Branagan was the best father.  He talked to me all the time, lecturing on ethics, body language, street smarts, safety, and critical thinking skills.  He taught me to think like a stray cat, assessing danger in a wild New York City of the early eighties.  He taught me to defend my positions.  He taught me to read the signs in the sky and the writing on the wall.   I’ve always had a library, because my father always had lots and lots of books.  He demanded that I “always carry a book with me,” to this day, I do. Falling into the American work forced he earned a decent living selling furniture at a store on 14th Street near Union Square, in my native isle, of Manhattan.

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Christopher Columbus/ Christobal Colon, statue in Santo Domingo, Capital of Dominican Republic.  He was the first to lay claim to the treasure isle of lovely, old Santo Domingo, thereby “discovering,” America.

So… we hit the Museo de Nuestras Raices Africanas.  I was looking for answers, deeper understanding, roots… not Hollywood made but real and indelible.  Sadly, there was only one, rather shabby, room devoted to the African diaspora, in the Museum of Latin American, which was very well conceived and gave me the opportunity to learn more about Puerto Rico’s and Dominican Republic’s native people, the Taino.  Sadly, the exhibit that was meant to be so enlightening, it was supposed to show what the living conditions on a slave ship were like and to really instill pride in the many descendants of the erased people, stolen from Africa… there was one image… I found haunting.

The video instillation which was supposed to show us HOW it felt to transported as cargo in a slave-ship felt, literally, failed to turn-on.  It was broken.  I wanted to see it and I was crushed because the halls/salas devoted to the native people of the Latin American jungles were particularly vivid and did enhance my understand of a part of my ethnic, physical, cultural being.  They hired a European master realist sculptor to cast members in vanishing tribes as models of the vibrant culture which is being erased by the “NOW or flowering of… But there were no bronzes of the lost Africans.  None.  No record.  We have the proof of them in us, in our blood, our music, language, and dance.

We are partially all African.  We are Jewish.  We are Chinese.  We are Caucasians.  We are.

I was ready for another dip into the abyss.  I had endured “the horror, the horror!”

I had visited the Museum of Tolerance in Los Angeles.  I’d witnessed the monuments, read books on The Holocaust, but… finding proof, respect, honor, of the people, kidnapped and sold… this was “curiously absent.”  I am becoming ravenously hungry for a history of my father’s ancestors, the once enslaved people, descendants of the stolen human loot of Africa.  It looks like I will have to continue searching for poignant records and moving museum exhibitions focused on the Caribbean people’s African roots, origins because I did not find all the answers I was looking for at El Museo de Las Américas.

I demand to know more about ALL my ancestors.  I learned more about my mother’s father on this trip, than I expected.  My grandfather grew up attending cock-fights, horrific gambling matches, with his father an heir to several family fortunes, writing eloquent poetry and political ballads, he died young.  I knew that his father was born to a well-off Spanish family and that he visited Dominican Republic to attend a cock-fight (how despicable!)   I knew he had blond hair and blue eyes because that fact had so impressed my dark-brown Daddy.  My father, Daniel, the Black Knight, so rushed to believe the Dominican propaganda machine’s messages, he embraced a love for his nation’s unique beauty, the warm and inviting water, the delicious fresh food. Ah!  My beautiful black marble sculpted father, loved the air, the water, the land of his memory so much that he returned to Dominican Republic, time and again until he returned to die there, only to be taken for the last ride of his life… but that is another story…. by his adopted “son,” and chauffeur, his final caregiver…betrayed his trust by never paying a cent of the promised money, my financial inheritance, a contract he signed,  in illiterate haste, which released me from guilt and duty in that he was false in his dealings with my father’s will.  (Thank goodness I wasn’t sitting around waiting for that pocket money!  I forgive the traitor.  Yet, I think… what a silly move!)

My father’s investment in time, love, and energy pays off in my life daily and in that I know how to manage, how to observe the law, and how to float and swim toward goals, yet not against the current, with it, in flow… how to align myself with prevailing benevolent powers, seeking protection in the authority of my accomplished husband, for example….  that I am able to move forward despite challenging circumstances which befall us all.  My sense of honor demands that I keep my father’s memory alive because I am grateful that as his daughter I received a tremendous dose of intelligent attention from the moment I was born until I showed that I would be falling in love with some other male and leaving him, someday.  Thank goodness, in a wave of clarity toward the end of his life my father woke-up from the dream of empty ambition.  He forgave me on his death bed for being me.  He died blessing me and telling me that his birth family had failed him.  He said he had adopted a new son, a man, his driver…a man with not one but two wives… looking identical… like twins and yet one was the dried up virgin and the other a wet valley of seductive corruption.

My father showed bad judgement in his choice of chauffeur.  Hah!

I’m so glad that my Papa gave me his blessing before dying.  I wear his good wishes with pride.   It is somehow linked in my mind that I’ve developed an obsession with Judge Dee, mystery novels by Robert Van Gulick, a 1950’s Dutch Diplomat Chinese studies school and … they… well they… sound like Daddy and the rough yet organized world he faithfully described; he taught me about the unchanging universe.  He taught me the law the justice of the universe.  The righteous truth that there is more than enough for every person within themselves to create abundance for others.  I read Judge Dee and I hear my father in the solving of simple mysteries with a handful of clues… I also LOVE my Big MONKEY, my sweet German Husband that underwrites my explorations of the past and supports my ongoing investigation on Talkinggrid because he is the father of our family and trustworthy and kind, like my Daddy was when I was his baby Monkey.

883552_646726755347581_1633_medNext year: we will be traveling to Europe and covering more Muse News abroad.  So… get ready and donate NOW, why don’t you buy yourself a freakin’ ad, or donate some cash like artists, independent art collectors, musicians, and holistic healers, and other supporters of The Talkinggrid do.  Thank YOU again to all those that contribute with encouragement and by reading.  Please, let me know IF I made too many offensive errors.  I’m OPEN to donations and suggestions.  Thank you!

Ah!  I unlock myself before YOU, lucky regular readers of the Talkinggrid!

YOU Loyal supporters!  I thank YOU!  This site is getting more and longer visits, daily.

I upload more and take responsibility for all its errors and mistakes, many are on purpose… others are happy accidents, which prove this site to be what it is: the work of one, artist, woman.

Yours truly,

Frau Kolb

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On the Way Back to LA

Playa del Rey, California

2 May 2013

Try this next time you have a flight pending:

Go to a great restaurant and order yourself a great meal.  Eat it.  In the ideal restaurant, the meal is enormous.  It is meant to fill you up with raw pleasure MORE than once.

The steak from Smith and Wollenski’s in Philadelphia made my flight home heavenly, ease.  Yeah.  Yes the porterhouse steak for two,  was that good.  The service, Fabian, was perfect: professional, earnest, and prompt.  This location, over looking Rittenhouse Square is date worthy.

The cherry blossoms in ripe fullness of SPRING! The image of joy on my husband’s face as he sipped his glass of a bold deep red with hints of pepper and chocolate.  YUM!

Or was it the memories of happy shopping in Philadelphia that make so happy on the flight home, back to LA?

In just 24 hours, I accomplished SO MUCH!

Thank you, Macy’s in downtown Philadelphia for the tremendous service.  Specifically, Nicklaus was amazing.  He was the paradigm of sales virtue helping me earnestly to collect the objects that will buffer my soul and comfort my body.  His friendly, focused service made it possible for me to achieve the (almost) impossible mission I’d set before myself: create a wonderful HOME, a retreat, a secret sanctuary for my loving husband, for myself, and the kids.

HOME: a place to return to.  It is the place where you base yourself.  It is from where you grow and expanding reaching out to the dazzling universe with ever changing interests and goals.  It is where your books are waiting for you to read them.  It is where your clothing hangs.    It is your nest, your hide-out.  It is where you charge your batteries.  It is where you hang out in your underware and eat cereal in bed.  Home is more than an address, a roof, a fridge, and a shower stall.  Home is one’s own private paradise, a Utopian kingdom, a perfect cubby for the brain and body.  At BEST, home is sacred territory and must be treated as such.

I stormed through the store and purchased all the required elements for a domestic paradise.  Breifly I was stranded, not trusting the rude boys that showed up to help me based upon my (BAD) Craigslist search for HELP transporting all my new treasures “back to the ranch.” Thanks to Über, a marvelous on-line, app-based service, I was able to use my iPhone and call for a car, an SUV truck, in disco black and equipped with party lights and booze (I did not indulge, this time) precisely when I needed one.  WHAT A WONDROUS AGE we live in!

Exactly then LIKE a bling BLING BLACK man-knight-giant: Emmanuel C. came to my rescue.  He is a hyper street smart, super ghetto fabulous, savvy, entrepreneur and business-man TAXI driver.  He had, “no problem,” helping me to get my many new housewares back to the NEW HOME, a little rental somewhere in Philadelphia.  He also recommended the precisely right furniture store.

AGAIN, I blitzed in and got the goods.  Tamara, the saleswoman there really went out of her way to help me get the most comfortable and lovely home furnishings IMMEDIATELY.  Would you believe that we arranged for delivery THAT VERY SAME NIGHT???

Yes, it is true.  We did.  Thus, after eleven pm the movers arrived and they delivered and installed everything before midnight.  I was just about to turn into a pumpkin when WHAM!  They were GONE!  Presto.  I had a room full of new furnishings.  Amazing.

This morning, after a few important meetings, I went back to Macy’s where I dropped more cash on ideal home-wares, getting the final needed nothings, the little tools of the kitchen, porcelains, high thread count cotton sheets, and other everyday marvels that will make our world a cozy place.  Based on the series of successful visits, starting with the first one, in the shoe department… on another visit to marvelous Philadelphia… (I’d popped into the crowded shoe department and the saleswoman was so patient and understanding of my skinny feet.  She got me pair after pair of shoes until we found a pair I love.  She persisted.  She endured, like Nicklaus.  He also gave of himself.  Thus making my frenzied shopping extravaganza a productive and worth mentioning experience.

The sum of my growing experience of life in Philadelphia is that it is a city one can proudly call, “HOME!”

By the way, IF I’d have another day in Philadelphia there is no way I’d miss the OUTSIDER ART Exhibit.

And YOU know how much I crave dancing with the BRIDE.

(I’d LOVE to get nude and MOVE it around Duchamp’s cracked masterpiece…

Butt, that is another story… Hah!)

Love,

Frau